Sex Therapy in Edmond and Oklahoma City
Sex is supposed to be something we can talk about, but many people have never had a place where they can discuss it openly without embarrassment, judgment, or someone making assumptions about what their sex life should look like.
I provide sex therapy in Edmond, OK and Oklahoma City for adults dealing with concerns involving desire, arousal, performance, intimacy, body image, sexual identity, and relationships.
Sexual concerns rarely exist in isolation. Stress, physical health, medication, sensory experiences, past relationships, trauma, anxiety, and what is happening between partners can all affect sexual response. In therapy, we figure out what is actually contributing to the problem instead of assuming it is “all in your head.”
Understanding Sexual Concerns
There is no single definition of a healthy sex life. What matters is whether something about your sexuality or sexual experiences is causing distress, getting in the way of relationships, or keeping you from having the experiences you want.
People come to sex therapy for concerns such as:
Low or changing sexual desire
Difficulty becoming or staying aroused
Performance anxiety
Difficulty reaching orgasm
Anxiety or distraction during sex
Body image concerns
Differences in desire between partners
Difficulty communicating about sex
Changes in sexuality after trauma or stressful experiences
Questions about sexual orientation, identity, kink, or sexual interests
You do not need to have a specific diagnosis or know exactly what is wrong before coming in.
Sexual Response Is Both Physical and Psychological
Sexuality involves the brain and body at the same time.
Anxiety can make it difficult to stay present. Sensory input can make certain types of touch enjoyable, distracting, or overwhelming. Body image can affect whether you feel comfortable being seen. Medication and physical health can influence desire, arousal, and orgasm.
Sometimes the problem is not a lack of attraction or interest at all. Your body may simply be responding differently than you expect.
My background in both mental health and nutrition and dietetics allows me to consider physiological factors alongside the psychological and relationship pieces of sexual health. When something may need medical evaluation, we can also discuss when it makes sense to involve another healthcare provider.
Sex, Anxiety, and Performance
The harder you try to make your body perform, the more difficult sexual response can sometimes become.
You may start monitoring whether you are aroused enough, whether you will maintain an erection, whether you will orgasm, or whether your partner can tell that you are anxious. At that point, you are evaluating the experience instead of actually experiencing it.
We can work on understanding what starts that cycle, reducing the pressure surrounding sexual performance, and helping you become more aware of what your body is actually responding to.
Sex, Trauma, and Intimacy
Past experiences can influence sex even when you want intimacy and feel safe with your current partner.
You may become tense, disconnected, distracted, or overwhelmed during certain experiences. You might avoid particular kinds of touch without fully understanding why. For others, trauma affects desire, arousal, vulnerability, or the ability to remain present.
When trauma is part of the picture, I can integrate approaches such as EMDR and Brainspotting rather than relying only on talking about what happened.
Neurodivergence and Sexuality
ADHD, autism, and sensory processing differences can also affect sexuality.
Sensory preferences may influence what kinds of touch feel good or uncomfortable. ADHD can make staying mentally present difficult. Changes in routine, expectations around intimacy, communication differences, or becoming overstimulated can all influence sexual experiences.
Instead of treating these differences as something you need to overcome, we can figure out how your brain and body respond and use that information to build a sex life that works better for you.
How Sex Therapy Helps
Sex therapy is talk therapy. There is no sexual contact or physical sexual activity between therapist and client.
What we actually talk about depends on why you came in. We might look at anxiety, beliefs about sex, communication with a partner, sensory preferences, body image, trauma, sexual response, or the pressure you put on yourself during intimacy.
I am direct about sex and comfortable discussing it. You do not need to use clinical language, avoid certain subjects, or worry about shocking me.
When to Consider Sex Therapy
Sex therapy in Edmond or Oklahoma City may be helpful if:
Sex has become a source of anxiety or pressure
Your desire or arousal has changed
You struggle to stay present during intimacy
You are worried about sexual performance
You and a partner have difficulty talking about sex
Body image affects your sexual experiences
Trauma continues to affect intimacy
Sensory differences make certain sexual experiences difficult
You want to better understand your sexuality without judgment
You can also come to sex therapy simply because you want a better understanding of yourself. Something does not have to be seriously wrong before it is worth talking about.
Frequently Asked Questions
What happens in sex therapy?
Sex therapy is psychotherapy that allows us to talk directly about sexual concerns and the factors affecting them. Depending on what brings you in, we may discuss sexual response, anxiety, relationships, body image, trauma, sensory experiences, communication, or other areas of your life.
Is there any sexual contact during sex therapy?
No. Sex therapy is talk therapy. There is no sexual contact between therapist and client.
Do I need to be in a relationship to see a sex therapist?
No. I work with individuals as well as people who are addressing sexual concerns within relationships.
Do you work with LGBTQIA+ clients?
Yes. I work extensively with LGBTQIA+ clients, and you do not need to spend your therapy time explaining or defending your identity or relationships.
Can we talk about kink?
Yes. My practice is kink-affirming. Kink itself is not treated as a problem. We can discuss concerns involving kink, relationships, communication, boundaries, sexual interests, or how those experiences fit into your life without assuming they are pathological.
Can sex therapy help if my concern might be physical?
Yes, but therapy does not replace appropriate medical care. Sexual response can be affected by both physical and psychological factors. We can look at what may be contributing and discuss when evaluation by a physician or another healthcare provider would be appropriate.
Getting Started
I offer sex therapy in Edmond, OK and work with clients throughout Oklahoma, including Oklahoma City. If something about sex, intimacy, sexual response, or your relationship with your body is bothering you, you do not need to have the right terminology or know exactly what is causing it before reaching out. You can schedule a consultation to see if working together is a good fit.
